Confessions of a former bride | pt 13

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December 6, 2012

There comes a time in your engagement when you are in between the rush of being newly engaged and the joy that is your wedding day when you are so stressed and overwhelmed you want to rip your hair out and elope somewhere. Bald, but stress free. For me, that happened around the 6-7 month mark. All of the major pieces were in place (venue, photographer, caterer, etc), but somehow I couldn’t envision how everything was going to come together and it left me in a panic. All of the little details can be so overwhelming. Especially when your wedding is so close, but still so far away.

Don’t stress! The wedding day will roll around, and things WILL COME TOGETHER. I promise you! Here are a few of my tips for staying sane!

  • Ask for help (BONUS POINTS…ACCEPT IT) Don’t try to be a hero. I learned this one myself the hard way…I wanted to say that I did so many things myself, but I ended up stressed and sick of wedding planning. Friends and family are excited about your wedding and they want to help! There is no reason to be tying twine on 150 invitations by yourself. Seriously.
  • Get off Pinterest! Once you’ve nailed down your theme and colors, STAY OFF PINTEREST. There are so many (almost too many) ideas there, and it can just start to feel confusing if you see more and more things you love that don’t really go with your theme.
  • Look into hiring a wedding coordinator (if you haven’t already). I can’t stress enough how important having a good coordinator is, especially if you are stressed. A coordinator’s JOB is to make sure you aren’t stressed by taking care of all of the details!!
  • Do one thing at a time. Instead of trying to find the perfect invitations, searching for bridesmaid dresses that please everyone, and deciding on a bouquet, pick one thing, cross it off the list, and then move on to the next! I feel like women are multitaskers by nature, but sometimes it’s better to focus on one thing at a time. Also, it’s not like the rest of your life stops for wedding planning…so give yourself a break!
  • Take time off. That leads me to my next tip!! Take a break from planning! Whether it’s a date night away from planning, or a couple weeks where you skip planning to watch netflix, put down the wedding binder and relax like a normal person for a little while. I promise you, you will feel better afterward!
  • Make a list of goals by month. Instead of having a huge 5 page list of things that need to be done between now and the wedding, try breaking down your goals into things you’d like to accomplish each month. So for example, January you might try to choose a flavor of cake, pick out your shoes, start your registry, and decide on centerpieces. Breaking your goals into manageable, monthly chunks will help out a lot!
  • Keep perspective. Your wedding is going to be an amazing day, because no matter what happens, you get to marry your best friend! Years from now you won’t look back and remember how stressful planning was, or if the reception was exactly how you envisioned it….you’ll remember looking at the person you chose to spend your life with and making a commitment to them!

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  1. ask for (and accept) help!!! I struggled with this one….It was easy for me to let people help with invitations & stuff, but totally stressed myself out & didn’t ask for help two nights before the wedding, tying all the dang programs together!!! Hindsight – ASK FOR HELP! Great post!

  2. Emilia Jane says:

    Yes to ALL of this!!! DOCs are a MUST!

  3. katie yuen says:

    thank you for this.. it’s about that time for me haha

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