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Getting Back to Basics

These days I’m incredibly disheartened by the photography industry…I’m tired of bullies and haters. I’m tired of toxic friends who feel like they need to compete with me or constantly try to one up my business successes with theirs. Don’t we all have friends like that? I’m sick of feeling like I should be featured on every blog, shooting destination weddings, raising prices, re-branding, marketing to specific types of clients (you know…the ones who love fashion, shop at certain stores, and love Starbucks. Is it me, or is every photographer in love with Starbucks??), and shooting 50 bajillion weddings every year. I’m done with comparison, industry rock stars (and their groupies), wanting people to like me, and being concerned with how many likes I have on Facebook or how pretty my clients weddings will be.

I’m over it…ALL of it.

I became a wedding photographer because I wanted to make a living doing something that I truly enjoyed. I wanted to photograph weddings for people that I cared about and then go home and eat tacos on the couch and dance in the kitchen with my goofy husband and our cat. I didn’t start my business to have people admire my pretty website or be envious of all the weddings I booked. I wasn’t interested in fame or really even fortune. I wanted a career that would allow me to have a life, not a life that was ruled by a career.


(Because this post is a little heavy…here is a picture of a cat to lighten the mood!)

The other day I realized that if I counted up all of the time I spend worrying about other people (what they think, what they’re doing, if they like me, if so and so is copying me, if they think I copied them, etc) I would probably have a million years on my hands. Okay, maybe that’s a little bit of an exaggeration, but seriously…have you ever stopped to think about how much time you waste on worrying about what others are doing or saying? When I first started my business, I was proud of my little accomplishments and constantly motivated to keep learning and growing. Every new thing I learned was a little victory that I allowed myself to celebrate and get excited about. I wasn’t stressing out about stupid things. I was building relationships with my clients, taking pictures for them, and living my life unaware of the everyday drama of the photography world.

I think for me this Fall season is SO welcome because it symbolizes a fresh start…a new beginning. For me, the cooler weather and pumpkin flavored everything mean that it’s time to get back to basics. It’s time to remember why I became a photographer and focus on those things…to work on improving my craft, to simplify my life and enjoy each day as it comes. I’d love to encourage you guys to do the same! Clear out the clutter in your life and make room for all of the wonderful things (like tacos, Gangnam style in the kitchen,twerking, and sweaters and apple cider)!


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I love this Katie!!!!! I LOVE it! I feel like I haven’t been featured enough or at all on “certain” blogs and I need to shine brighter to be successful, but it’s the emails I get after sessions and weddings saying “you made me feel so beautiful” or “we LOVE our wedding images and can’t stop looking at them!” that REALLY MEAN SOMETHING!!!! The whole featured is amazing, but the best part is telling a client they’re in the spotlight because their love is sweet enough to be featured 🙂 And, you’re right– let’s let FALL be a new fresh start! It’s not always January 1 that has to be the beginning of a new beautiful phase in life! XOXOXOXO

As we all said at TTR… Turn down the noise love!!! Yes!

Oh- and there are waaaaay better coffee places than Starbucks! Just sayin’ 🙂 lol

Yes. To all of it.

I love, love, love this post Katie! It’s so easy to compare yourselves to others and their accomplishments. I’m so proud of you for focusing on what truly matters and for striving to live a simple life. All that clutter clouds the joy 🙂

I think there are lots of people who feel this way! And count me a someone who isn’t obsessed with Starbucks. I’m probably one of the few who have never had their coffee! 🙂

Twerk is officially in the dictionary as of today – just thought you should know haha. I think when we allow ourselves to STOP the noise in our own heads, we free ourselves to become even better than we ever imagined without the restraints and constrictions of everything we think we need to do, say, or be. It’s ironic that the minute we let it all go is the minute that we really begin to shine, but the world works in funny ways like that! 🙂

Here’s to less stress, doing what we love, and spending time with the loves (and cats) of our lives!

And for the record, I don’t drink coffee. Whenever I go to Starbucks I get the organic apple juice, which comes in a juice box. Because I am a 5 year old.

Perfect post.

Kristen Thomas

AMEN!!! Love this!! I’ve been mulling over all the same stuff. Thank you for the great reminder!

Katie, This is a perfect post! well written and thank you! I just started reading the book “The Happiness Project” this morning, and this post solidified the reason for need to read the book! Hope you have the happiest of hump days!

love this, katie. love your heart. love your talent. love you!

Amen to that! Living in Portland means I’m not ‘allowed’ to like Starbucks … Haha.


Thank you for this renewed perspective! I know I’m still a ‘baby’, but I think it’s SO easy to get caught up into all of the things you mentioned. At the end of the day, that stuff doesn’t matter! 🙂

well said. so true. love the twerking crossed out. 🙂

so true! do it because you love it, not because you’re trying to compete with everyone! such a great reality check! 🙂

Good for you! I know I never got into the rock stars… I do it for the people and getting to be a part of such a special time in their lives. I genuinely love what I do, and I know that you will love it again with your new approach.

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