A peek at the styled shoot I shot last week! I won’t be sharing more for a while so enjoy this tiny peek for now!!
Tomorrow is my twenty fifth birthday! I can’t believe I will be a quarter of a century old. And then there’s the fact that I’ll be on the downhill slide to thirty…uh oh. I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting on my life lately and I can honestly say that things have turned out a lot differently than I ever imagined they would, but there are a lot of good things in my life that I wouldn’t change for anything. I think I’m at that age (or that stage in life) where you start legitimately thinking you are getting old, but you’re really still so young. I thought about it this way this life. I have lived 25 years so far, but I probably have around (hopefully) at least 50 more to go. MORE THAN TWICE WHAT I’VE LIVED NOW! I think your mid twenties can be kind of scary…you’re supposed to have your life together or at least be starting to get your crap together, but a lot of us are still not even sure what we want to do. Until two years ago I didn’t know what I wanted to do either. Until this year what I wanted to do was a pipe dream, not a reality.
I can honestly say at 25 (well after tomorrow) maybe the most important life lesson I’ve learned so far is that I really don’t know anything at all, and there might never be a day when I do. I can learn and learn and learn and still not come close to the tip of the iceberg of what there is to know on earth. The only thing I can do is wake up every day and work hard to be kind, humble, honest, giving, loving, and make choices out of love and empathy rather than anger. I can’t know everything. I can’t do everything. I can’t make everyone happy and trying will only make me unhappy. I’ve learned that anger comes from fear and/or hurt. And that people are mostly good if you give them a chance to be. Oh, and the second most important thing I’ve learned so far is that you can’t change people. You can only change yourself. I want to spend my next 25 years living a peaceful, SIMPLE life. With lots and lots of donuts.
I will be out of the office today and for the rest of the weekend:) My mom is taking me shopping and we have guests coming in from out of town. I love having people stay over with us!!
I love it when my clients or a second shooter will tell me that I’m so laid back. I think I mostly love it because I feel that I’m anything BUT laid back. I’m a class A worrier and an out of control planner. I like knowing when and where I plan to be somewhere and I hate it when I try to make plans with a friend and they are super vague about what time they’d like to meet. For most of my life I’ve been the type of person who stresses out about the unknown. I like having a plan or at the very least, some guidelines I can go by for how my day/week will go. For some reason this gives me security and makes me feel a lot safer. I like to feel like I’m at least somewhat in control of my life and knowing what to expect seems to help me.
This week all of my best laid plans seemed to get lost somewhere in the shuffle. I planned out my week pretty carefully because I had A LOT to do. So everything was planned out by day to make me mega efficient. I even scheduled time for me to hang out and spend time with a friend on Thursday evening to celebrate my upcoming birthday. HA. Too bad the weather had other plans. Damn you, rain! So now my Tuesday plans are on Thursday, my original Thursday plans are still TBD, and I’m doing my best to not freak out and to just ROLL with it. I was kind of upset I couldn’t follow through with my shoot on Tuesday, but you know what? When life gives you lemons you make lemonade. So John and I checked the Williamsburg forecast and said screw it, we’re going to Busch Gardens. And guess what? When we got there, only two of the roller coasters were even open. So I ate a corn dog and we rode the open rides, and then we had frosties on our way home. IT WAS THE BEST AFTERNOON. And it totally was what I needed to remind me WHY I’m a full time photographer now…so that I have time to enjoy the little moments like that. The shoot will get done. The flowers have not died (thankfully) and the two people who are involved in it with me have just been the BEST.
It’s kind of ironic that this is my life and my career is wedding photography…Wedding photography is SO unpredictable. No two weddings are the same and crazy things pop up all the time where you have to be ready to just roll with it and make it work. And that’s something I love about weddings! I need to learn to love it in real life too. Life is never going to slow down and it’s never going to stop throwing crazy things my way….in fact I think the craziness will be more intense and unpredictable since I’m self employed now. I can’t predict what every day will hold or when I will get paid, or what I will learn or not learn or encounter with every turn I make. But I can learn to roll with it and just go with the flow and look for the good in all of these moments that may or may not frustrate the type A control freak inside of me.
Here’s a peek at something that went as planned this week:) I went out to Sandbridge yesterday afternoon to take some family portraits for April and John and little baby Addy. LOVED their coordinating outfits;)
It’s sometimes hard for me to write out this text part to wedding blog posts…most of the time (such as in this case) I feel the images really speak for themselves and they are what truly tells the story of the day…not whatever fun adjectives I can write about how amazing the wedding day was. But in this case it’s especially hard for me to put into words exactly how incredible John and April’s wedding day was. Do I start by describing how despite a few hiccups, John and April stayed laid back and relaxed? Or should I talk about how sweet and consuming their love is and how awesome it was that their baby daughter Adeline was a bridesmaid? April and John had described their wedding to me as “beach country” and all of their incredibly well executed details were handmade by both of them and their families. April’s mom even made all the bouquets! They also picked the PERFECT time for a bayside ceremony at the Baja restaurant…the light was absolutely GORGEOUS! All in all April and John’s wedding day was pretty amazing. So much so that it’s even harder than normal to sum it all up within a couple paragraphs.
Also, a big thanks to Justin Ferry for second shooting!
First look time!
Congratulations, April + John!
Hey there! I’m trying to keep up with video blogging and be faster with getting these out. I’m happy to say that the gap between this video and the last one wasn’t MONTHS like the one between the last two videos. It was only a week! Check out this video (it’s a little longer than normal) in which I answer a frequently asked question and share some of my family formal tips for brides who are currently in the planning process!
EDITED TO CLARIFY…I just realized that when I start the video talking about “family portraits”, how I do them but don’t show them on the blog, and how they are boring except to you and your fam, it could be confused as I’m talking about an actual family portrait session…totally not the case!! I do those too occasionally, and they are SO NOT boring and would def make it on the blog! In this video I’m talking about WEDDING DAY family formals only!! Hope that clears up any of my rambly confusion!! xoxo