Confessions of a former bride | part 11


October 25, 2012

I know, I know!  I have SERIOUSLY been neglecting this series. I blame a busy fall season and all of the other craziness life has thrown our way for its absence:) Sorry peeps! I will try my best to do better in the off season!

Something one of my friends and former clients said to me a couple of weeks ago made SO MUCH SENSE and inspired me to finally write this post to share with you guys…she said that when she looks back on her wedding day, she remembers how much in love she was and how happy and fun her wedding was and how grateful she was that they hired their planner because their wedding day was so stress free!  I have wanted to write about this for some time now…other than hiring a photographer, our biggest concern for our wedding day was hiring a wedding coordinator. We both knew that we wanted our friends and family to enjoy our wedding day. To us, our parents and friends had also waited a very long time (our whole lives) to see us get married. My parents will only be parents of the bride ONCE. I wanted them to be able to enjoy the ceremony and reception without thinking about setting the whole thing up or figuring out logistics. I wanted them to be able to experience the day and all of its emotions in the moment. Your wedding day is just as much a once in a lifetime event for your family as it is for you!  I know we could have saved a LOT of money if we hadn’t hired a talented coordinator, but there would have been a very different feel to our wedding day!

As a wedding professional who works weddings pretty frequently and spends the majority of my time on the wedding day with the bride, I can tell you there’s a HUGE difference when a bride is working with a professional planner and when a bride is not. The brides who hire planners are just not stressed out because they’re not the ones dealing with all of the behind the scenes drama! They have peace of mind because they hired a talented professional to take care of all of those things! This leads me to my next point…

STRESS!!! I can’t tell you how many weddings I’ve shot where there was no planner and the bride was stressed about something, whether it be a last minute change, or having to make a quick decision because of the weather, or even something like the flowers running late or the DJ not knowing when to announce the bridal party into the reception. When there’s no planner, who do people go to to ask those questions? THE BRIDE. For your wedding day, you deserve to be PRESENT and really enjoy the day. This is a once in a lifetime event that FLIES BY. You want to soak up every moment of bliss you can, not be answering questions on how you wanted the centerpieces set up or where the caterers should set up the drink station.

A lot of you might be thinking, yeah that’s all great, but I can’t AFFORD to hire a planner. I HEAR YOU. Believe me, I do. You might not believe this, but a good coordinator can actually SAVE you money in the long run. Coordinators work weddings every weekend, whereas most brides, do not. A good planner or coordinator will have lots of budget ideas for you, including on venue, vendors, linen rentals, centerpieces, etc. Also, another thing I learned as a bride is that TIME IS MONEY. At the end of the day all of that time spent working on timelines and seating charts and vendor contracts is just GONE. Oh, and remember all that stress we talked about? When you think about it in those terms, a planner is a much more reasonable addition to your budget!!


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  1. Emilia Jane

    October 25th, 2012 at 9:40 am

    As Meg from A Practical Wedding say, you need someone to be the boss on your wedding day and it shouldn’t be you! Love it.

  2. Ursha

    October 25th, 2012 at 4:56 pm

    So good written! Sadly in my country only a few people work with planners because it’s not so know yet!

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