Confessions of a former bride | part seven


April 13, 2012

I was trying to come up with ideas for today’s post and failing. Failing miserably. I tried to type out some ideas, but nothing came out so I started reading articles about Jessica Simpson’s baby weight. (Sidenote: did you know home girl has been eating pop tarts smothered in BUTTER??? I love junk food like you wouldn’t believe…but I can’t see myself going THAT far). Somewhere during my procrastination I found my inspiration! ROADBLOCKS. As in hitting a wall during wedding planning?? Still with me?

I don’t know if this is true for everyone, but I think it’s very easy to hit a wall or burn yourself out with wedding planning. I know I did. There came a point where I was so over wedding planning and logistics that I just wanted our wedding to be OVER with so I could relax. I was no longer motivated to work on wedding projects and even the smallest wedding task made me cranky. I didn’t want to look at a timeline, seating chart, or glue stick. I wanted chocolate, lots of chocolate. Oh and a nap. Because I don’t want you to end up in the fetal position with an episode of Jersey Shore blaring in the background, here are some things I recommend to avoid BB (bridal burnout).

Hire a planner
Hiring someone else to carry the weight of the important things is a really awesome way to cut out some of the wedding planning stress. Most brides are not professional wedding planners and can get pretty overwhelmed by some of the logistical aspects of planning a wedding day. I hired our coordinator for day of assistance and used her as a sounding board for some of my ideas before the big day, but it would have been SUCH a stress relief if I had hired her to plan and coordinate the entire thing. I could have worked on my projects and enjoyed the fun stuff like food tastings and dress shopping and avoided some more of the things I didn’t enjoy like timelines or deciding what length the linen rentals needed to be.

Take time outs
Like with anything else  you do, total immersion in wedding planning can lead to quickly burning out. To avoid that, it’s really important to take a time out from planning every now and then. Take an afternoon to read trashy gossip magazines instead of worrying about centerpieces. Or  go out on a date night with your Fiancé and talk about everything BUT wedding planning for a night. Feeling like you still have a life outside of planning is important if you want to keep balance.

Get a good night’s sleep
This is one of those really basic tips that it’s so easy to overlook! I can’t tell you how much better I’d feel about everything if I stopped whatever I was working on and just went to bed at a normal time. If you are constantly up late working on wedding projects at the last minute,  you are probably going to hate life, at least the next morning when your alarm goes off!

Ask for (and accept) help
I think the main reason I got so burned out on wedding stuff was because I didn’t ask for help. And when I DID ask, I sought help or advice from some truly unreliable friends I had surrounded myself with. Spoiler: that didn’t work out. If I could go back in time I would ask for help from people I trusted and then actually ACCEPT the help of people who offered it to me. Sometimes I think accepting help is even harder than asking for it, even though you’d think it would be the opposite!

Keep in mind that at the end of the day, the real reason you are doing all of this is to marry the love of your life! Your wedding might not be perfect, and things may go wrong, but no matter what it will be an incredible day that you will never forget. Don’t let burnout or stress make you forget the real meaning behind your day!

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  1. molly

    April 13th, 2012 at 9:24 am

    SUCH good advice. i did everything myself, too, for our wedding and i was SOOOO tired by the end. but it was ALL worth it! 🙂 🙂

  2. Maria

    April 13th, 2012 at 10:40 am

    Sound advice! I remember being stressed this summer as we (I) searched for our vendors. I kept having these awful dreams! Then I had a serious moment where I realized, “hey crazy, it’s going to be a-okay! Actually it’s going to be great! Stop WORRYING!” and then I’ve never been stressed since 🙂

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